In 1998, my former boss summoned me to my first staff representation meeting.
The fear in his stomach to face him and ask him a general increase for employees …
To tell you the truth, I was shaking. So, I thought back to my self-confidence techniques.
I remember this psychological rule: “We are afraid of what we do not know! “
I remembered that my fear was largely due to my ignorance of the situation. I did not know much about a staff delegate meeting.
To be honest, I did not even know anything about how it went. It was then that my personal development courses came to the surface of my consciousness.
My thoughts told me this:
“you’re scared because you do not know! The solution is for you to KNOW what you fear.
Determined not to remain feverish and especially not to arrive in front of my boss’s head leaning towards my shoes, I take the initiative to know the maximum on the organization of this type of meeting. I call my fellow staff colleagues over the phone.
The Equation Of Self-confidence
How does it happen?
The places, the questions.Disagreements. Possible objections; how to answer it?ALL!
In short, in 3 hours, I knew as much as an “old” delegate of the experienced staff to the art of the negotiation … To each of the answers of my colleagues having lived this type of experiment, I felt better in better. My personal statement took on density… and my fear faded!
What a great lesson to understand that the mechanism of fear is a process that calls KNOW
What Solutions Against Fears?
This is a question that often comes up in the emails I receive.
I often answer this:
“We are afraid of what we do not know! “. But, we trust that we KNOW! “
When a situation provokes fear in you, do your best to KNOW and KNOW as much as you can about what it is.
Have the reflex to replace in your language the word “FEAR” for lack of knowledge. This formula encourages you to seek to highlight the points that are still for you in the dark.
As soon as you learn and know what scares you, she will faint!
“Once men are caught in the event, they stop being afraid. Only the unknown frightens men. “
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, aviator