The Healthy NarcissismUltrell
When you type the word “narcissism” in the search engine you will see dozens of results that describe the negative aspects of those infected and how to avoid them, and how dangerous they are to society, emotional relationships or friendship.
In fact, the results are a show of a personality disorder, NPD or narcissistic personality disorder. Whose symptoms manifest themselves in self-centeredness, bullying, blaming others for their mistakes since childhood. They are caused by traits such as other troubled characters; they may be somewhat hereditary or partly rooted in the natures that appear to children early on, or because parents over-praise the child, not his actions, or lack of interest in the child’s ideas, what he wants and what he does not want. And conquering parental authority or indifference to it from the ground up. The diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder is actually negative. But narcissism itself is not bad or good; it expresses self-love or self-esteem.
But in the late twentieth century, the concept of narcissism slowly evolved from traditional psychoanalysis, and a new term was carved out to express the good side of narcissism, or specifically to express the value of self-esteem and self-love without interrupting contact with the outside world, and so-called ‘healthy narcissism’.
The Use Of Healthy Narcissism?
In our lives, there are people who see them with exciting qualities such as intelligence, power, and beauty. However, they do not feel satisfied with themselves, but do not see these qualities deserve to be praised and ignored, and are concerned and committed if someone cared for them or commented positively on one of their qualities. We even find girls mention that they run away from the mirror, even at the hairdresser, because they cannot look for themselves. There are also men who admit that when a girl approaches them for admiration, they are severely confused, and sometimes act aggressively to evade. Besides, there is a large segment of people who do not enjoy any achievement for them not because of concern alone or the like; but because they do not see that there is an achievement they have achieved! Such people do not appreciate or recognize any of their good qualities.
Healthy narcissism is important to such people; A person’s lack of self-esteem compels him to accept harmful things, whether emotional relationships or a low position in a company.
Why Not Everyone Has Healthy Narcissism?
Simply because some people do not develop their own love for several reasons, the most important of which can be brought up with parents who do not give them space to discover or look for themselves. There are those who are afraid of being accused of arrogance and arrogance and retreat if they start to consider their qualities and appreciation because of not getting used to it, and fear of the judgments of others.
Can Narcissism Save Us And To What Extent?
In his book Words, Jean-Paul Sartre recalls the words about his first date at the barbershop at the time he was seven.
“Crying screams, and then my mother
locked herself in her room to give herself up for crying. So, no one wants
to take a picture of me.”
It was at that moment that Sartre’s future was shaped by his entire being, the Durable. It is frustrating for any child who is aware of this and the consequent view. But nevertheless, to protect himself and to establish his self-esteem, he established himself within himself as being loved by his grandfather. Only trust.
On the other hand, we can call the practical side of this problem what Michael Maccoby wrote in his article in 2000, where he called the “narcissistic leaders” or “narcissistic leaders” on a certain category of human beings, saying that throughout history narcissists have always emerged to inspire people and shaping the future. When the military, religious and political arenas dominated society, figures such as Napoleon Bonaparte, Mahatma Gandhi, and Franklin Delano Roosevelt set the social agenda. But from time to time, when business became the engine of social change, it also generated its share of narcissistic leaders. This was true at the beginning of this century, when men like Andrew Carnegie, John D. Rockefeller, Thomas Edison, and Henry Ford took advantage of new technologies and restructured American industry. I think it’s true again today.
Leaders such as Jack Welch and George Soros are examples of narcissistic producers. They are talented strategists who see the big picture and find meaning in the perilous challenge of changing the world and lagging behind a legacy. In fact, one of the reasons we look forward to productive narcissists in times of great transformation is that they have the audacity to drive the massive transformations that society is making periodically. He then encloses in his essay a section on the three figures Freud analyzed and took care of the narcissistic figure and then continued Fromm along the same lines.
They are creative, driven in business for strength and glory. Producer narcissists are experts in their industries, but they go beyond that. They also ask critical questions. They want to learn everything about everything that affects their company or organization and its products.”
He then goes on to achieve the natural equilibrium for that equation.
They are also thieves who can transform audiences through their discourse. The danger is that narcissism can turn out to be counterproductive when narcissists become unrealistic dreamers (…) and that this tendency towards greatness is a weakness for narcissists. Because of that; even intelligent narcissists can be suspected of being self-involved or individualistic, unpredictable and, in extreme cases, paranoia as well. Besides, they lack empathy, which is an essential feature of communicating with humans, but the lack of empathy has not prevented them from communicating or inspiring. Maccoby sets the example for Bill Gates and Andy Grove. But sometimes a lack of empathy is a positive feature. Maccoby explains that the narcissist leader feels a little regret when selling or buying his company, laying off his job or losing a deal because he won’t waste much time on sadness and remember disappointments. Here again, narcissism can save an individual from collapse.
What Makoby said is fair and realistic, because the greater the awareness of the individual himself becomes more able to control his behavior and actions and understand the motives. It even becomes more productive and benefits others who share the same experience. The perturbed perturbation is better than the perceptual norm of what is going on around him. This will only happen if everyone recognizes and understands the strengths and weaknesses within them. In this context we can apply Khodorovsky’s saying:
“Inside and outside you there are angels and demons, positive and negative forces, these forces are not good or evil, they are necessary for the vital balance of the world.”